A kink is often described as a sexual activity that falls outside the norm. That is an inadequate definition, in my opinion, and needs to be modernized and updated.
Any BDSM educator will tell you that not everything we do in BDSM or in the ‘scene’ is sexual in nature, or a sexual turn on to both parties participating.
But there is no other way to really describe wanting/needing certain activities even when it doesn’t turn you on. There’s no other word to describe a love of bondage, spanking, etc other than calling it a kink… even though your need may not be sexual in nature.
Wondering if you’ve missed any of my books? Well, the book checklists have been updated. You can find them on the download tab of the website. As a reminder, one of the checklists simply lists the books by series and genre. There are no spoilers.
The second checklist DOES have spoilers, because it includes all the tropes and triggers I could think of. Obviously, that’s not a comprehensive list, but I think I got the main ones.
They are both in PDF form so you can use them on your computer/phone or print them out.
I saw a series of memes going by on Facebook the other day that grabbed my attention for a second. Before I could read through them the page refreshed and took them away and they were gone, but it did remind me of something I want to talk about.
Limits.
Or rather… lack of limits.
But let’s start with the definition of a limit.
We have soft limits and hard limits, and the definitions are slightly different.
Welcome to 2024. I hope the first week has been treating you well. I’m feeling excited and invigorated about new beginnings. It makes me super motivated to lay down some plans for the year.
Which, in all honesty, will probably only last for a few weeks, but I want to take advantage while I can!
My 2023 holiday card. It features a cartoon frog wearing a Yule wreath of holly and candles. It says “Happy Holidays. Wishing you all the very best of holidays and a fantastic 2024.
Last year’s resolution/goal was to post here more often, and I’m pleased with how I did. I managed two serious articles most months and tried to keep you updated in between. I did take most of December off for my sanity.
I just had too much to do, but now I’m back and I’ve already scheduled my first article of the year for next Friday. I’ll be talking about limits and why ‘No limits’ isn’t a thing. Why it’s important to have them, and state them clearly.
I also have a few other articles progressing, that I hope to have finished soon. And I have a list of smaller projects to complete this month, that I’d like to share with you.
I intend to get the tropes and triggers documents updated. These are downloadable checklists in pdf that you can print out. You can find the current ones here: Downloads and I’ll let you know when I get them updated. (Edit January 7th, 2024 updates are complete.)
There is a no-spoilers file that just lists my available books by series and genres.
Musings of a Chaotic Mind 