Letting punishments go can be bad for your D/s relationship, but sometimes you might need to work around issues that pop up. You might want to read part one first : Letting Punishments Go Can be Unhelpful
So what if the Dom is trying to let something slide but the submissive keeps doing it? Or they come right out and say they feel bad about something they’ve done, but the Dom doesn’t want to punish for it? I often hear subs complaining about Doms not being consistent with the punishments. Making threats but not following through.
Continue reading “Dealing With Punishment Issues–Part two of ‘Letting Punishments Go Can Be Unhelpful’”
Hello everyone! To celebrate Valentine’s Day this year my fellow authors and I have put together a contest with some lovely prizes. To participate you have to be a member of our FB group here: Sexy Spanking Authors and Readers
Each author (there are 6 of us) will be making a special contest post between the 11th and the 13th of February. They’ll be marked so you won’t miss them. All you have to do is participate and three winners will be chosen from among those who comment on all six posts with a picture of their own. It’s very simple, super easy, and we have some sweet prizes to give out.
We do a lot of fun stuff and giveaways in our group so if you’re not already a member you should consider coming to hang out with us. Plus, I don’t mean to brag but…some of the hottest authors in the BDSM/Spanking romance genre are in there waiting to meet you.
Not all D/s relationships have the kind of structure where the Dom makes rules and dispenses punishment. But when you do include them in your D/s it’s important to follow through when the submissive breaks the rules. Some Dominants have trouble giving punishments and that’s okay, but if punishment isn’t something you can handle then you probably shouldn’t be making real rules.
Continue reading “Letting Punishments Go Can Be Unhelpful–Part One”
This article is continued from Part One
People who are new to D/s often struggle with what kind of rules to incorporate in their relationship, if any. In the first section of this article we talked about daily rules and why we use them. Whether or not you want to have them is going to depend on the kind of relationship you have, but I do think small things like this are really important.
Continue reading “Daily Rules and How They Work Part 2–Do You Need Them?”
I realized while writing this that it was running a bit long, so I’ve decided to break it in half. My normal readers should be used to that. For anyone new to the blog… sorry, but I often have a lot to say when I’m talking about relationship dynamics.
And one quick announcement for you since I just got some news: Taken By the Renegade has been accepted by my publisher. I won’t have a release date for a while yet but I expect we’re looking at around March. Continue reading “Daily Rules and How They Work”