July 2024 – Musings of a Chaotic Mind

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THE DIFFICULT JOURNEY TO LEARNING HOW TO SAY NO 2/2- LETTING YOUR SUBMISSIVE SIDE HELP

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Last week we talked about basic skills that can help you learn to say no to people in your life. These are the basic tools that you can use anywhere, in any situation, and are just, in general, really good things to practice.

Today we’re going to focus more specifically on the BDSM side of things, but keep in mind that the skills in Part One can still be helpful in kink situations because they are easily adaptable. This part is just more BDSM centered and is going to be more nuanced.

I’ve always said that BDSM can help your life if you are engaged in healthy dynamics, and this is another aspect of that. It might sound counterintuitive, but your submissive inclinations can be used to keep you from spreading yourself too thin.

Part Two— Letting your submissive side help.

We’re going to talk about some different mindsets that might help you focus on your decisions, so you’re not obeying on autopilot. The goal is for you to make the choice to submit, and I’m going to be honest, submission feels more satisfying when you choose to do it.

THE DIFFICULT JOURNEY TO LEARNING HOW TO SAY NO 1/2

(Note: I had intended for this to be one piece, but it’s a difficult issue and it’s gone much longer than I had planned. So I’m breaking it in half and Part One and Part Two will be posted in consecutive weeks.)

Saying no is an important part of setting personal boundaries, and as we all know, boundaries and limits are essential for a healthy life, and not just in the Scene. It’s a skill that you will need in all aspects of your life.

But many of us with submissive personalities have trouble with this. It runs contrary to our basic nature. While it’s natural for most people to decline things they don’t want to do… for submissives it’s a whole different level of difficulty.

Krampus Summer Sale- Last Day!

Well, I had a post set up to announce my Krampus sale… and it never went live. I just now realized.

If you’re signed up for my newsletter, you probably already know about the sale. That’s the best place to find out about new releases and sales honestly, because I don’t always remember to do my author news over here. If you’re not signed up, you can go here to get subscribed:
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But anyway, you have one day left to grab Lord Krampus on sale for .99cents.

This is probably my favorite Krampus book and I’ve never put it on sale before.

Book Five of the Krampus Collective On sale!

Also in #KU (This is a kindle countdown deal so it’s not available in all countries)

Each book stands alone. Every story and dynamic is unique.

Series link: https://mybook.to/KrampusCollective

Lord Krampus

He’s never been anyone’s hero… until now.

The moment he sees her, he knows Beatrice is the one.

Her innocence should repel him. Instead, it draws him in. But just because he rescued her, doesn’t mean he’s allowed to keep her. She’s just not bad enough, not naughty enough to feed his hungers.

After a stolen week of dark pleasures, he’s forced to return her, leaving Tris with a choice: spend the year moving on with her mortal life or becoming the naughty girl her Krampus needs. This book does contain some punishment, as per the Krampus theme, but less than the other books in this series. It does have a very strong and sweet love story with lots of sexy kink.