Musings of a Chaotic Mind

August 29, 2025August 26, 2025

CONTACT ME? UM…

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This is a really weird post to have to make, and it’s only going to affect a few people– who probably won’t even read it, but I’m going to try anyway.

So, I get a lot of emails from readers. Because of the nature of this blog, people don’t always like to comment publicly, which I understand. WordPress also doesn’t let you like/comment unless you have an account with them and people don’t want to go through the trouble, which I also get. And then, you have readers who have personal things to say and want privacy.

That’s all fine and I have a ‘Contact Me’ option specifically for these people. However… sometimes people use it for other reasons. Just so we’re clear…

I am not looking to spank you.
I am not looking to be spanked by you.
I’m not looking for a Master.
I am not looking for a sub.
You cannot pay me to Dominate you.
I’m not looking for a sugar situation.

Also… just so you know… If you try to troll me by sending ‘adult comments’ and putting in an email address that clearly isn’t yours, in hopes that I’ll reply to a company or government department with something inappropriate… you should be aware that emails through ‘contact me’ include your I.P. address and general location.

There’s no way to accidentally put in an address like that. It has to be typed in manually. So, if, for instance, you send me an e-mail saying, “are you going to spank me daddy?” and you put the return as a .gov email address of a Utah courthouse… you are making some risky choices.

If the general email box at a courthouse got an angry e-mail from me, in response to someone who used their address… they would probably want to know who was using their email. And I would absolutely turn over that information, because I have very little patience with trolls.

This blog is a labor of love. I do it because people find it useful, but it costs me a lot of time, money, and energy to maintain. So, please respect my time and don’t play games.

August 22, 2025August 22, 2025

IS BDSM ALWAYS ABOUT PAIN?

The belief that BDSM always includes pain is a common misconception. People who are curious about BDSM, new to exploring, or have only read/seen it in fiction tend to think that everything about BDSM hurts, either mentally or physically. And it’s true that there are a lot of kinky activities that do include some level of pain.

July 25, 2025July 20, 2025

NOT ALL EXPERIENCE IS EQUAL

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I realize the title may sound a little judgmental, but it’s not meant to be. Hold on with me for a few minutes, and I’ll explain. When it comes to life, we have, what I like to call, narrow experience and wide experience.

TOM LEHRER AND THE MASOCHISM TANGO

Last night I saw the news that Tom Lehrer had died (July 26^th) and, like many other celebrity deaths this year, it pinged my childhood memories. He was 97 and lived a long life, but somehow it still hurts.

Tom Lehrer was a brilliant man. He was actually considered a childhood prodigy and entered Harvard at 15. He graduated from there with two Mathematics degrees, and later taught mathematics and other classes at MIT, Harvard, Wellesley, and the University of California, Santa Cruz. He also taught Political science and his love of math and politics both come up frequently in the career he’s best known for: comical music.

Because despite his years in teaching, his work with the NSA, and his job with the Atomic Energy Commission … most people know him best for his music. He had multiple albums released, did several tours, and even wrote songs for the children’s show The Electric Company.

THERE IS MORE THAN ONE KIND OF DADDY DYNAMIC OUT THERE

Not all Daddies are the same.

I can never say this enough, but DDLG is not the only Daddy-style dynamic out there. It’s become very popular, so we see a lot of Daddy Doms, especially in kinky fiction, but it’s important to remember that not all Daddies are DDLG.