Musings of a Chaotic Mind

January 10, 2025January 10, 2025

Happy New Year!

Well, we made it to 2025.

2024 was a huge struggle for me, especially the last month. December was filled with challenges and trials. Late deadlines, health issues, and an exploding hot water line that flooded the kitchen and destroyed hours of holiday baking.

I never finished the Krampus book I intended to have out in early December, and I am literally still working on my holiday cards right now. I’m not even half done. Since each one takes me between 30-60 minutes, I’ll probably be finishing in February at this point. Ah well.

I think it’s pretty obvious why the blog was quiet in December. I have several articles in various stages of completion, but none of them are short or quick, so I just haven’t had the chance to finish any of them. And this year, unfortunately, is going to be just as busy as last year. Eek.

So, I’m going to get to them as soon as I can, but I did want to check in, so you know I’m still here and active. I hope your holidays, whichever you celebrate, were lovely, and I hope the new year is filled with the best things for you.

Oh, and in the meantime, don’t forget you can always drop suggestions for things you’d like to see!

December 13, 2024November 22, 2024

HOW OLD IS TOO OLD FOR THE LIFESTYLE?

Black and grey background with the words: Learning Safely.

When I entered the scene, years ago, I was young, barely an adult. I was about twenty the first time I played with someone. Twenty-one when I went to my first party. I was prepared for all of it, luckily, because I’d been reading everything I could find online about The Scene, Kink, and BDSM since I first got my own computer.

There weren’t a ton of sources to be honest, not factual ones anyway. Not non-fiction websites and pages that I could go to for real information. However, since the moment the Internet existed, kinky people have been posting spanking fiction on it. And that I found plenty of.

November 30, 2024November 30, 2024

For Those Who Read My Fiction…Sale!

I was hoping to skip the Black Friday e-mail deluge by sending a day later. I’m not really sure that helps anymore since we now have Small Business Saturday/Cyber Saturday and basically all of November and early December are sales now.

Oh well! Hopefully you see the notification. I have books on sale this weekend (through the 2nd) and I didn’t want you to miss out!

First the ENTIRE Masters of the Zodiac series is on sale. Some books are free and some are .99cents.

Twelve Signs. Twelve Guilds. Twelve destinies about to unfold. Series Link: https://mybook.to/MastersOfTheZodiac

Each book can be read as a stand-alone in this multi-author paranormal romance series in a shared world. Different authors, different Kink dynamics– BDSM and a lot of steam and spice!
In #KU and paperback too

And then I have Daddy Krampus up for free! This is the first book of the Krampus Collective series. It features the normal stuff you’d expect from Krampus (lots of punishment, kidnapping, etc.) as well as DDlg.

The punishment is NC, as you’d expect from Krampus.

https://mybook.to/KrampusCollective

She’s a thief in desperate need of a strict hand. He’s the embodiment of punishment looking for a mate. They have a year to find what they need … in each other.

Inside Valerie is a naughty little girl looking for love and discipline. When Krampus spirits her away to his netherworld domain, she is shocked to find he intends to punish her for every single thing she’s ever stolen.

Ouch.

She doesn’t expect to be treated like a naughty little girl. And she definitely had no idea how much she’d love it. Now she’s learning to obey her Daddy and he’s learning how to take care of a human with unusual needs. The Little in her needs to be cherished. The woman in her needs to be dominated. He’s ready to love both sides.

The Krampus Collective

Once he was a solitary immortal. A creature out of nightmare. The embodiment of punishment. As humanity grew and spread across the globe, he split apart to keep the balance. Now there are twelve.

Connected but individual, they carry out the duties of Krampus by punishing the wicked. The tears and cries of pain from their victims sustain them. But this year is different. It’s time for each of them to choose a mate. To find that one naughty sinner who fits their unique preferences.

For the first time their discipline will be tempered with mercy and care. They have one year to find love with the human they choose. One year to convince that mate to stay. One year to punish, train, and cherish. Each story will stand alone. Every book will be unique.

Enjoy!

November 22, 2024November 18, 2024

DO YOU HAVE TO BE A LITTLE TO HAVE A DADDY/MOMMY DOM

I see this question pop up a lot since Daddies/Mommies/DDlg relationships/ Littles have become slightly more mainstream. These roles have long been misunderstood.

People are starting to be more accepting of such dynamics now, but as that happens, we see many who are confused about what the terms mean, or what that kind of relationship would look like. And there are a lot of people who love the idea of a Daddy Dom… but don’t love the idea of ageplay or acting younger. It makes them feel uncomfortable.

We’re going to clear up a few misconceptions about these relationships, but first we’ll start with some basic definitions to make sure we’re all on the same page.

Please remember that most roles in the BDSM world mean exactly what the identifying people want them to mean, so it can be hard to pin down specific definitions. My definitions, or the commonly accepted definitions, may not fit you or your dynamic exactly.

DOM, DOMME, OR DOMINATRIX?

Let’s talk about the FemDom side of BDSM.

There are a lot of Dominant women in the BDSM world, more every year, I’d say. I was lucky that some of my earliest events were run by women, so I started off thinking it was entirely normal to have a large number of female Dominants around.

I later found that to be a little misleading. They are there… but typically at most events and clubs I find the number of male Dominants vastly outweighs the female. This, along with… shall we say, ‘historical views on women’ means that sometimes the female Doms don’t get as much respect as they should.