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August 23, 2024August 20, 2024

KINKY MEMORIES: THE REN FAIRE

For those of you who are kinky and have gone to Ren Faires, you know that they are excellent places to let your kinky side show a tiny bit. Obviously, we’re not talking full-fledged exposure or anything, but when it comes to your clothing choices… well, leather is encouraged.

Collars, cuffs, and even the occasional flogger hanging from your belt are not out of place there. And as if to encourage the kinky crowd, you’ll find that many Ren Faires have stocks set up, not just for display, but to be used. Most people get in them for fun photos. “Oh, Look. I’m in the stocks for being bad! Hahaha”

THE DIFFICULT JOURNEY TO LEARNING HOW TO SAY NO 1/2

Black and grey background with the words: Learning Safely.

(Note: I had intended for this to be one piece, but it’s a difficult issue and it’s gone much longer than I had planned. So I’m breaking it in half and Part One and Part Two will be posted in consecutive weeks.)

Saying no is an important part of setting personal boundaries, and as we all know, boundaries and limits are essential for a healthy life, and not just in the Scene. It’s a skill that you will need in all aspects of your life.

But many of us with submissive personalities have trouble with this. It runs contrary to our basic nature. While it’s natural for most people to decline things they don’t want to do… for submissives it’s a whole different level of difficulty.

Sharon Green and Her Kinky Sci-fi and Fantasy Novels

My favorite book Gateway to Xanadu by Sharon Green

Sharon Green was a popular author in the 80’s and 90’s. Her Sci-fi and Fantasy books were published by well-known companies like Daw and Avon, and some of her romance came out through Harlequin.

I started out as a teenage fan but eventually we met online and became friendly. We had many conversations about the oddest topics over the years, but the last email I wrote to her bounced. I tried her back-up email and that bounced too. I figured we’d reconnect eventually, but a few months later I found out that she’d died.

I felt her loss harder than I would have expected, in a year (2022) filled with other losses and I still don’t really know what to say about her death. So let’s talk about her work instead.

January 26, 2024January 7, 2024

The Definition of Kink Needs an Update

A kink is often described as a sexual activity that falls outside the norm. That is an inadequate definition, in my opinion, and needs to be modernized and updated.

Any BDSM educator will tell you that not everything we do in BDSM or in the ‘scene’ is sexual in nature, or a sexual turn on to both parties participating.

But there is no other way to really describe wanting/needing certain activities even when it doesn’t turn you on. There’s no other word to describe a love of bondage, spanking, etc other than calling it a kink… even though your need may not be sexual in nature.

What is Impact Play?

This should be a fairly short article because it’s not a very complicated subject… for a change.

I’m sure you’ve heard the term Impact Play and you probably have a general idea of what it means. It is in the name after all. And on a surface level it’s pretty simple, but people can have a vague idea without entirely understanding the definition. Since Impact Players are probably the biggest group in the BDSM world, it’s a good one to flesh out.