The Best (and Safest) Spanking Toys for a Newbie

I was going through my spanking implement bin this week and I was thinking about how many of those toys I’ve had since way back in the beginning. Many of them were handmade, or normal house items we appropriated, and I kept them because of fond memories.

I still also have the first real implements I bought or were gifted to me. With care, many of these things will last a lifetime—though we’ve broken our share of paddles and had leather fall apart at times.

We have a lot of toys because we like a variety of sensation. Each toy gives you a completely different result, so when picking one you really need to think about what effect you want. If you’re new you might not know what you like yet, and that’s okay. You have plenty of time to explore and learn.

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The Lonely Doll Books and Thoughts on Growing Up Kinky

Everyone who is at least twenty-five probably remembers when spankings in kid’s books used to be common. Sometimes they were just brief mentions—other times they were fairly descriptive.

For those of us who developed an interest in spanking from a young age these scenes were gold mines. I still remember being as young as five and absolutely fascinated with spankings in cartoons. When I found my first spanking in a book, I was probably about eight.

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Figging and Using Ginger in Your Play

I could have sworn I’d done an article on figging already, but I looked, and I couldn’t find it. I think I might possibly have done an abbreviated version in a larger post, rather than doing one on its own. So, I guess it’s time.

Figging is the act of inserting a piece of ginger into an orifice. Most commonly we hear about it being used in anal play. However, you can actually do it in the vagina and in the urethra as well.

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BDSM Ideas: An Illustrated Guide

I received an email from someone who runs this website that hosts this illustrated guide and they asked me to take a look at it and maybe share it with my readers. So I did. You can check it out here: BDSM Ideas: An Illustrated Guide or keep going to see my review of it. 

It’s hosted by School of Squirt and the main function of the website seems to be teaching people to have better orgasms. It’s adult oriented obviously, but in an educational way. I can’t really say much about whether their techniques work or not, but they also have illustrated sexual positions and other resources you might find interesting or entertaining.

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Can you be a feminist and a submissive?

I usually try to be more inclusive with pronouns, but this topic seems very specific to submissive women who submit to men so I’m going to focus on M/F, but there are many parts of this that are going to apply to the role regardless of gender so bear that in mind.

It’s no secret that some feminists have conflicts with submissive women. The concept that feminism gives us the right to CHOOSE to submit is often lost in the translation. Not only do you have the right to submit, but you have the right to be a housewife, and a stay-at-home mother, and still be feminist. The whole point of feminism is that no one is telling us who we have to be.

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