growing up kinky – Musings of a Chaotic Mind

July 11, 2025July 28, 2025

TOM LEHRER AND THE MASOCHISM TANGO

Last night I saw the news that Tom Lehrer had died (July 26^th) and, like many other celebrity deaths this year, it pinged my childhood memories. He was 97 and lived a long life, but somehow it still hurts.

Tom Lehrer was a brilliant man. He was actually considered a childhood prodigy and entered Harvard at 15. He graduated from there with two Mathematics degrees, and later taught mathematics and other classes at MIT, Harvard, Wellesley, and the University of California, Santa Cruz. He also taught Political science and his love of math and politics both come up frequently in the career he’s best known for: comical music.

Because despite his years in teaching, his work with the NSA, and his job with the Atomic Energy Commission … most people know him best for his music. He had multiple albums released, did several tours, and even wrote songs for the children’s show The Electric Company.

Sharon Green and Her Kinky Sci-fi and Fantasy Novels

My favorite book Gateway to Xanadu by Sharon Green

Sharon Green was a popular author in the 80’s and 90’s. Her Sci-fi and Fantasy books were published by well-known companies like Daw and Avon, and some of her romance came out through Harlequin.

I started out as a teenage fan but eventually we met online and became friendly. We had many conversations about the oddest topics over the years, but the last email I wrote to her bounced. I tried her back-up email and that bounced too. I figured we’d reconnect eventually, but a few months later I found out that she’d died.

I felt her loss harder than I would have expected, in a year (2022) filled with other losses and I still don’t really know what to say about her death. So let’s talk about her work instead.

June 16, 2023June 12, 2023

Growing Up Kinky: Finally Finding Some Non-Fiction Information on BDSM.

Fiction is pretty much always the gateway to kink when kids are growing up, I think. I mean no kids are out there stumbling across instruction manuals for BDSM. They see the cartoons with everyone getting spanked, the old sitcoms with wives getting punished.

Then you have the more modern shows where both men and woman get spanked, but usually now in sexy situations instead of discipline. Maybe they see some spankings in old kid’s books, or read stories about it happening—and that’s how they find out that there is something weirdly compelling about all of it.

It’s weird being kinky as a kid because you can literally hate being punished—and avoid it at all costs, but then… seeing someone else get punished is just completely enthralling and you don’t know why.

April 14, 2023May 1, 2023

Growing Up Kinky: Fiction That Shaped Me

These days if you want to read about non-fiction kink or learn about BDSM there are a million websites to look at. There are tons of real resources and blogs from people who know what they’re talking about.

And if websites aren’t enough and you want books, every kind of kink can easily be found by searching on Amazon. For those who prefer to hold a book in their hands before they buy it, most chain bookstores, like B&N, have plenty on the shelves you can flip through.

In other words the information is all over the place.

But it didn’t used to be like that. When I was in high school, Amazon didn’t exist yet, and the local bookstores, even the chains, had very little on kink. You might find half a shelf in the sexuality section if you were lucky.

April 22, 2022March 30, 2022

The Lonely Doll Books and Thoughts on Growing Up Kinky

Everyone who is at least twenty-five probably remembers when spankings in kid’s books used to be common. Sometimes they were just brief mentions—other times they were fairly descriptive.

For those of us who developed an interest in spanking from a young age these scenes were gold mines. I still remember being as young as five and absolutely fascinated with spankings in cartoons. When I found my first spanking in a book, I was probably about eight.