I’ve thought about writing a little bit about the history of the BDSM community before, but I haven’t had a chance to do much on it so far. Then the other day I had an interesting discussion with someone about the ‘proper’ names for things and it seemed like a good time to dip my toes in the shallow end of a deep subject. Continue reading “BDSM Terms and the History Behind Them”
This is an important topic and one that I don’t see discussed enough. Many misunderstandings that happen in a scene come from people looking at things in different ways and not realizing it. What’s normal and obvious for one person, might not be that plain for someone else. When you think you’re on the same page and you aren’t… that’s when things can go wrong.
I had an interesting thing happen last week. I was approached by the Survive LDR blog recently because they’d read my Long-Distance D/s series. They have an interesting site with a lot of articles on how to survive a long-distance relationship, so of course my series caught their interest. Continue reading “Long-Distance Relationship Blog and Store”
It’s not all about sex, but I can see why you might not realize that if you watch or read a lot of power-exchange fiction. Continue reading “BDSM–It’s Not All About Sex”
I’ve been writing a lot about rules lately, so this article felt like it was long overdue. What I’d like you to do is read the title and put an emphasis on with. Making rules /with/ your submissive. What I see too often, both in fiction and in real life, is that the Dom simply hands down a list of rules that they think are in the best interests of the submissive, without actually discussing it with them.