CONTACT ME? UM…

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This is a really weird post to have to make, and it’s only going to affect a few people– who probably won’t even read it, but I’m going to try anyway.

So, I get a lot of emails from readers. Because of the nature of this blog, people don’t always like to comment publicly, which I understand. WordPress also doesn’t let you like/comment unless you have an account with them and people don’t want to go through the trouble, which I also get. And then, you have readers who have personal things to say and want privacy.

That’s all fine and I have a ‘Contact Me’ option specifically for these people. However… sometimes people use it for other reasons. Just so we’re clear…

I am not looking to spank you.
I am not looking to be spanked by you.
I’m not looking for a Master.
I am not looking for a sub.
You cannot pay me to Dominate you.
I’m not looking for a sugar situation.

Also… just so you know… If you try to troll me by sending ‘adult comments’ and putting in an email address that clearly isn’t yours, in hopes that I’ll reply to a company or government department with something inappropriate… you should be aware that emails through ‘contact me’ include your I.P. address and general location.

There’s no way to accidentally put in an address like that. It has to be typed in manually. So, if, for instance, you send me an e-mail saying, “are you going to spank me daddy?” and you put the return as a .gov email address of a Utah courthouse… you are making some risky choices.

If the general email box at a courthouse got an angry e-mail from me, in response to someone who used their address… they would probably want to know who was using their email. And I would absolutely turn over that information, because I have very little patience with trolls.

This blog is a labor of love. I do it because people find it useful, but it costs me a lot of time, money, and energy to maintain. So, please respect my time and don’t play games.

Free Books!

For those of you who like a good BDSM romance or erotica novel… today is Kynk Your Kyndle day.

Dozens of free books are up for grabs at your favorite retailer today, including one of mine. (It is a one-day event, but many books will still be free tomorrow. So, it’s worth checking if you miss today.)

 One Day Only – May 16, 2025

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As part of this event I’ve got Lights, Camera, Daddy! from my Action Daddy series free!

I’ve also got book 2 (Revenge of the Daddy) and book 3 (The Daddy Returns) up for sale at .99cents each for the next few days. So, this is your chance to get most of the series free.

WHAT DOES BEING COLLARED MEAN?

This seems like a pretty basic question on the surface, but when you dive deep, you find it’s a lot more complex. And, as with many things in the Scene, the meaning depends on the people involved.

Simply put, a collar is usually defined as a band that you wear around your throat. It can be made from almost any material: lace, leather, metal, velvet. And by itself it doesn’t need to have any sort of meaning.

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THE DIFFICULT JOURNEY TO LEARNING HOW TO SAY NO 2/2- LETTING YOUR SUBMISSIVE SIDE HELP

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Last week we talked about basic skills that can help you learn to say no to people in your life. These are the basic tools that you can use anywhere, in any situation, and are just, in general, really good things to practice.

Today we’re going to focus more specifically on the BDSM side of things, but keep in mind that the skills in Part One can still be helpful in kink situations because they are easily adaptable. This part is just more BDSM centered and is going to be more nuanced.

I’ve always said that BDSM can help your life if you are engaged in healthy dynamics, and this is another aspect of that. It might sound counterintuitive, but your submissive inclinations can be used to keep you from spreading yourself too thin.

Part Two— Letting your submissive side help.

We’re going to talk about some different mindsets that might help you focus on your decisions, so you’re not obeying on autopilot. The goal is for you to make the choice to submit, and I’m going to be honest, submission feels more satisfying when you choose to do it.

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