WHAT IS A ‘POWER DYNAMIC’?

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I use the phrase ‘power dynamic’, or just ‘dynamic’ a lot in my articles, because when it comes to BDSM relationships, power and who holds it, is a huge part of everything. When you submit, you choose to give up your power to a dominant partner. When you enter a D/s relationship you are entering a power exchange where you negotiate which partner holds the authority and what the limits of that authority would be.

But recently in a book group I saw someone ask what the phrase ‘power dynamic’ meant. I realized I’d never really defined it here.

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THERE IS MORE THAN ONE KIND OF DADDY DYNAMIC OUT THERE

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Not all Daddies are the same.

I can never say this enough, but DDLG is not the only Daddy-style dynamic out there. It’s become very popular, so we see a lot of Daddy Doms, especially in kinky fiction, but it’s important to remember that not all Daddies are DDLG.

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WHAT IS FINANCIAL DOMINATION (FINDOM)?

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There have always been relationships that are built on financial considerations. One example, historically, would be the bride price. The prospective groom (or his family) would pay the bride’s family for his wife. This was considered the norm in many cultures, and is different from a dowry, which was a much more complicated transaction.

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