Even though we’re going to be discussing Doms for the most part, there is really more to this question. Basically, what it’s asking is: If I need something I can’t get in my marriage, is it okay to find it elsewhere.
This stemmed from an email I received last week with the question in the title, but as I started thinking about it, I realized that is a small part of a much bigger conversation. And there’s a lot there that I’m not going to get into because it’s out of my focus.
Continue reading “Can You Have A Dom Outside of a Vanilla Relationship? Part 1”
I apologize in advance because this is a long one.
Continue reading “Ignore The One True Wayers – Your Kink Doesn’t Need To Follow Anyone Else’s Rules”
From the title I bet you can guess what we’re going to discuss today. People who decide that their way to kink is the only way to kink are bad for the community. It’s a form of gatekeeping and it takes away people’s right to decide for themselves.
I’ve thought about writing a little bit about the history of the BDSM community before, but I haven’t had a chance to do much on it so far. Then the other day I had an interesting discussion with someone about the ‘proper’ names for things and it seemed like a good time to dip my toes in the shallow end of a deep subject. Continue reading “BDSM Terms and the History Behind Them”
The new year seems like a good time for some serious topics and this is a deep one because it’s about slavery. It’s something that I’ve been wanting to write for a few months now but it took a while to get the words together.
Continue reading “Submissive Not Slave”