Littles – Musings of a Chaotic Mind

April 11, 2025April 11, 2025

BEING LITTLE DURING SCARY TIMES

For a Little, the ability to slip into a younger mindset, and bring their inner child out into the world to play can be a gift. It is a way to escape stress, relax, and just have fun. For people who have to be in control too much, it’s a way of forcing themselves to let go.

If you normally struggle to let other people take care of you, being in Little space can suddenly make it easier for you to accept help. Most Littles, by their nature, enjoy being indulged and cared for, at least to a certain extent. That’s really what the Little experience is about. Letting go of control, and allowing someone else to look after you for a while.

November 22, 2024November 18, 2024

DO YOU HAVE TO BE A LITTLE TO HAVE A DADDY/MOMMY DOM

I see this question pop up a lot since Daddies/Mommies/DDlg relationships/ Littles have become slightly more mainstream. These roles have long been misunderstood.

People are starting to be more accepting of such dynamics now, but as that happens, we see many who are confused about what the terms mean, or what that kind of relationship would look like. And there are a lot of people who love the idea of a Daddy Dom… but don’t love the idea of ageplay or acting younger. It makes them feel uncomfortable.

We’re going to clear up a few misconceptions about these relationships, but first we’ll start with some basic definitions to make sure we’re all on the same page.

Please remember that most roles in the BDSM world mean exactly what the identifying people want them to mean, so it can be hard to pin down specific definitions. My definitions, or the commonly accepted definitions, may not fit you or your dynamic exactly.

Is Withholding Affection As Punishment Abuse?

I want to start off by reminding you of something. A punishment (or any activity really) may be a limit for you. It might upset you to even think about someone receiving this punishment, because it triggers you. But that doesn’t mean the punishment itself is abusive or wrong.

Every relationship is different because people are different and what they can tolerate varies. So, punishments cannot be the same across the board. I know people who love to be spanked, but will not accept it as punishment.

I mean spanking is pretty much the most standard basic punishment you can think of in a D/s relationship… but for some people it’s a limit. Why? Well, in one case I know it’s because she loves spanking and doesn’t ever want it to be tainted with any negative feelings. It’s arousing and she wants it to stay that way.

November 17, 2023January 2, 2024

New Books and Other Updates

While I’ve had several in-depth BDSM lifestyle articles up recently, I have been slacking at the book updates over here. Oops! My schedule is backed up in general, unfortunately, which is why Maya’s Scary Little Halloween wasn’t released until October 31st. A bit late for a Halloween story, I know.

Sigh.

But, for those of you who love sweet and sexy DDlg stories and keep a Halloween spirit year-round… you’ll enjoy the story anyway. It’s a quick read with sexy spanking, punishment, and sexy times.

October 1, 2023January 2, 2024

Heaven Leigh’s Little Halloween Is Live!

I’m so excited to announce my latest book is out! This book is part of the popular Rawhide Ranch franchise. I can’t tell you how proud I was to be invited to participate in this world.

If you’re not familiar, it’s a huge series about a BDSM resort ranch. All dynamics are shown, but there is a special focus on Daddies/Mommies and Littles.

There can be a lot of stress and anxiety involved when you jump into a popular franchise like this. What if you don’t make the grade? As an author you never want to disappoint readers, and I have to admit I was nervous.