RACK – Musings of a Chaotic Mind

February 13, 2026February 14, 2026

THERE ARE NO HARD AND FAST RULES

Black and grey background with the words: Learning Safely.

Is it too early in the year for a controversial topic? I did hold off until February, but this one has been nagging me.

If you’ve been around a while, you may have noticed I don’t approach things the way a lot of BDSM/Lifestyle blogs do. They focus on ideal situations, on best case scenarios, and they often give the impression that everyone should automatically be taking what they think is the safest path.

I used to read plenty of them, and I would get so frustrated because I couldn’t relate to any of it. It wasn’t what I saw at parties and clubs. It wasn’t what I lived and what other kinky friends were living.

April 8, 2022March 30, 2022

R.A.C.K and The Daddy Takes the Reins Series

Book four of Daddy Takes the Reins, Forever His Brat, came out a few weeks ago. It completes the story arc for Sam and Charlie. They get their happy ever after and I really love how everything wrapped up. The series is going to continue, but with a new couple taking the lead.

I still have plans for Sam and Charlie, so you’ll see them again– probably sooner than you think.

But today I want to talk about one facet of Charlie and Sam’s dynamic. Even though Claiming His Brat came out well over a year ago, I still get complaints about the fact that they don’t use safewords during punishment.

April 18, 2019October 3, 2019

We’ve outgrown Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC)

This is going to be one of those informative posts where I ramble about things that people who are new to the scene, or people who are outside the scene but curious, might find useful–but I actually hope some people who have been around the block a couple times might find it interesting too.

I’m going to discuss SSC and RACK, two popular acronyms used by people in the scene. Continue reading “We’ve outgrown Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC)”