Covid Silence and How It’s Affecting Relationships

A more serious topic for us today after the relaxed December month. Covid Silence is a term I made up to describe the way everyone is kind of pulling into themselves right now. Between the depression, the wish to avoid mentions of the pandemic, and just in general not having much to chat about means a lot of people are going quiet.

For me the hardest part of living in a pandemic has been that silence and difficulty in communicating. It’s amazing how much the daily chatter dies down when no one leaves their house, or does anything fun to share.

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BDSM and Self Harm Part Two(TW: Self Harm)

I’m going to start with another warning. I know we went over it yesterday, but today is a new day and a new situation. Please take a moment to make sure you’re in a good place to continue this conversation. Police your own triggers by making sure you can handle reading this before continuing, as there will be info that could potentially trigger people.

There were certain things that needed to go in the first post. I already knew it was going to be on the long side and I had to be careful where I ended it, so this might feel a little disjointed, but I want to revisit a few things.

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BDSM and Self Harm Part One (TW: Self Harm)

This is part one of a pretty heavy topic, but one that I think could be really useful to some people right now. And because of the emotional nature of the theme, breaking it into a lot of sections is difficult so this first piece is very long.

This blog doesn’t usually dive into mental illness, or unhealthy coping mechanisms. That’s not my focus; I’m here about the kinky lifestyle. However, it’s impossible to ignore the cross-over and at times there will be topics that get into that—this is one of them.

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What Do You Do When Your Dom Isn’t Around Enough? Part 3- Littles and Some Final Thoughts

In part one we discussed how life can be difficult at times, and how it can mess with your relationship dynamics. Through no one’s fault, sometimes Doms just can’t be available as much as they are needed. This can be a time or energy issue because, let’s be honest, Domming does take a lot of energy and it can be hard to force. What Do You Do When Your Dom Isn’t Around Enough Part 1

In part two we talked about how to nourish the D/s bond and ways to deal with only having a limited amount of time together. We discussed things that could help get the relationship back on the right track as well.  What Do You Do When Your Dom Isn’t Around Enough Part 2 Continue reading “What Do You Do When Your Dom Isn’t Around Enough? Part 3- Littles and Some Final Thoughts”