Spanking – Musings of a Chaotic Mind

August 23, 2024August 20, 2024

KINKY MEMORIES: THE REN FAIRE

For those of you who are kinky and have gone to Ren Faires, you know that they are excellent places to let your kinky side show a tiny bit. Obviously, we’re not talking full-fledged exposure or anything, but when it comes to your clothing choices… well, leather is encouraged.

Collars, cuffs, and even the occasional flogger hanging from your belt are not out of place there. And as if to encourage the kinky crowd, you’ll find that many Ren Faires have stocks set up, not just for display, but to be used. Most people get in them for fun photos. “Oh, Look. I’m in the stocks for being bad! Hahaha”

The Naked Autograph Story

I don’t have anything serious ready for this week, so I thought I’d just tell you a funny story. Someone brought this up the other day and said I should put it on the blog. Since I don’t believe I’ve ever told the story here, I figured I might as well.

I tend to only talk about my own experiences as a way to give examples of situations, since this blog isn’t really about my personal life. It’s more about helping people learn about the D/s lifestyle and BDSM– and occasionally reminding people that I make my living from my books.

But I do have some fun stories from my time in the kink world and this is one that always makes me laugh when I think about it.

Sharon Green and Her Kinky Sci-fi and Fantasy Novels

My favorite book Gateway to Xanadu by Sharon Green

Sharon Green was a popular author in the 80’s and 90’s. Her Sci-fi and Fantasy books were published by well-known companies like Daw and Avon, and some of her romance came out through Harlequin.

I started out as a teenage fan but eventually we met online and became friendly. We had many conversations about the oddest topics over the years, but the last email I wrote to her bounced. I tried her back-up email and that bounced too. I figured we’d reconnect eventually, but a few months later I found out that she’d died.

I felt her loss harder than I would have expected, in a year (2022) filled with other losses and I still don’t really know what to say about her death. So let’s talk about her work instead.

November 24, 2023November 16, 2023

“Don’t Hit Girls!” (Getting Your Partner to be Rougher)

This post is mostly going to focus on women with male partners. It might apply to other relationship dynamics, but one question I see asked a lot, mostly by women with male partners, is: “How do I get my husband/boyfriend to be rougher with me? He’s always afraid he’ll hurt me.”

Bruising And Marks

We recently talked about Impact Play here. I had actually intended to post this article first, but I realized it made more sense to wait until after I posted the one on Impact Play, since one of the things a lot of people love about that kind of BDSM are the marks it leaves behind.

This article will be a bit longer, because I want to discuss why so many people love to wear the marks of their play, but also talk about ways to avoid marks that last longer, like bruising.

Why do so many submissives love to wear marks?

If you are a sub or bottom of whatever type, who enjoys spanking, then chances are you know what I’m talking about right now. There is nothing quite like looking at the aftermath of a good spanking or paddling, and seeing all the red marks and maybe even some bruises that are left behind.