Last week we talked about a difficult situation for a submissive. Having a Dom who isn’t around enough because of life events that can’t be controlled. If you haven’t read it yet you might want to check that out first: What Do You Do When Your Dom Isn’t Around Enough–Part 1 Continue reading “What Do You Do When Your Dom Isn’t Around Enough–Part 2 Ideas”
It’s not all about sex, but I can see why you might not realize that if you watch or read a lot of power-exchange fiction. Continue reading “BDSM–It’s Not All About Sex”
I’ve been writing a lot about rules lately, so this article felt like it was long overdue. What I’d like you to do is read the title and put an emphasis on with. Making rules /with/ your submissive. What I see too often, both in fiction and in real life, is that the Dom simply hands down a list of rules that they think are in the best interests of the submissive, without actually discussing it with them.
Letting punishments go can be bad for your D/s relationship, but sometimes you might need to work around issues that pop up. You might want to read part one first : Letting Punishments Go Can be Unhelpful
So what if the Dom is trying to let something slide but the submissive keeps doing it? Or they come right out and say they feel bad about something they’ve done, but the Dom doesn’t want to punish for it? I often hear subs complaining about Doms not being consistent with the punishments. Making threats but not following through.
This article is continued from Part One
People who are new to D/s often struggle with what kind of rules to incorporate in their relationship, if any. In the first section of this article we talked about daily rules and why we use them. Whether or not you want to have them is going to depend on the kind of relationship you have, but I do think small things like this are really important.