The creations of Kessily Lewel (and Sadie Marks)
The belief that BDSM always includes pain is a common misconception. People who are curious about BDSM, new to exploring, or have only read/seen it in fiction tend to think that everything about BDSM hurts, either mentally or physically. And it’s true that there are a lot of kinky activities that do include some level of pain.
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I realize the title may sound a little judgmental, but it’s not meant to be. Hold on with me for a few minutes, and I’ll explain. When it comes to life, we have, what I like to call, narrow experience and wide experience.
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This is a subject that really doesn’t need a long, complicated article. It’s actually pretty simple, but it is a topic that needs to be talked about more. As we go into this, please realize that people prefer different words to describe these things, and it can be a sensitive subject.
People with disabilities and impairments exist, and many of them are kinky. I don’t know why this comes as a surprise to some people, but it does.
Let’s talk about the FemDom side of BDSM.
There are a lot of Dominant women in the BDSM world, more every year, I’d say. I was lucky that some of my earliest events were run by women, so I started off thinking it was entirely normal to have a large number of female Dominants around.
I later found that to be a little misleading. They are there… but typically at most events and clubs I find the number of male Dominants vastly outweighs the female. This, along with… shall we say, ‘historical views on women’ means that sometimes the female Doms don’t get as much respect as they should.
Continue reading “DOM, DOMME, OR DOMINATRIX?”
I don’t have anything serious ready for this week, so I thought I’d just tell you a funny story. Someone brought this up the other day and said I should put it on the blog. Since I don’t believe I’ve ever told the story here, I figured I might as well.
I tend to only talk about my own experiences as a way to give examples of situations, since this blog isn’t really about my personal life. It’s more about helping people learn about the D/s lifestyle and BDSM– and occasionally reminding people that I make my living from my books.
But I do have some fun stories from my time in the kink world and this is one that always makes me laugh when I think about it.
Musings of a Chaotic Mind 