I started out as a fetish artist for C.F. Publications years ago and before long I began to write for them as well. Hundreds of short stories later I decided to give books a try; now I'm now an author with five novels under my belt. My favorite genres in which to create are those involving power exchange relationships so you'll see a lot of that here.
I think that some people tend to assume D/s relationships are always bordering on unhealthy. That the attraction to this kind of lifestyle is the ‘darkness and danger’ inherently expected in any activity out of the mainstream. They confuse the excitement and thrill of kink with wanting a lifestyle on the edge.
And don’t get me wrong, there are risks in many of the heavier aspects of BDSM. But those are the activities we do, not the relationships we have. We can choose to participate in a scene that has elements of risk, while wanting a totally healthy and safe dynamic with our partners.
I’ve got lots of news and updates from the author side today and it’s all cowboy related! Well, almost all!
First! My new series: Rough Daddy featuring Nick the cowboy and Katie the bartender.
If you love Daddy Kink and Cowboys then this series is going to be for you. It’s Daddy with a side of Tamer/bratty sub. There is no ageplay in it.
The prequel: The Trouble With Cowboys is live, and you can find it here: https://mybook.to/RoughDaddySeries (This is a universal link that will take you to the series. Scroll down to find the pre-order under related books)
The Trouble With Cowboys cover.
It is not in #KU, because I intend to list it on other retailers, but it stands-alone and you don’t need to read it to follow the series. Part of this book was briefly published in a small anthology a few years ago but has been rewritten and expanded. If you are subscribed to my newsletter, check out the last issue (4/21) before you buy it.
Second! Book One of Rough Daddy, Learning The Ropes, is now up for pre-order. It’s on sale and the price will go up when it releases on May 6th. So, you only have a couple of days to catch it cheaper. It will be in #KU once it goes live.
Tell me that’s not the hottest cover… I have been waiting to use that model for years. You can’t even imagine how excited I am.
And third!
The Dirty Daddy anthology series has reorganized under a new publisher of the same name! The format of the series has also changed.
Instead of two massive editions per year, the publisher has decided to revamp it into smaller, themed editions with fewer authors in each. Each book will be available for longer and they are planning some amazing effects for the paperbacks.
I was so excited to be invited to participate again. This will be my third time in a Dirty Daddy anthology and each time has been amaaaaazing. My work will be featured in the Giddy Up, Daddy (cowboy) edition, which releases in February 2025.
All five editions are now up for pre-order at a reduced price. These books are available on multiple platforms now, and will probably stay so for a time after each release. Eventually they will go into #KU, but it might be a long wait. Get your click on here:
So, a couple weeks ago, we talked about whether withholding affection was abusive or not. The topic came up, as many do here, because of a question I saw online. In this case, there was a book scene where the Daddy withheld affection from the Little as punishment, and it seemed abusive to some readers.
But to sum it up… it really depends on the people involved and what their limits are. It’s easy to view things through a lens of our own experiences, but what looks like abuse to you… might be perfectly fine for someone else. Everyone tolerates different things.
I mentioned at the time that I had a perfect example of this, and I was going to discuss it in a separate post, because it combined well with another topic—and here we are.
I want to start off by reminding you of something. A punishment (or any activity really) may be a limit for you. It might upset you to even think about someone receiving this punishment, because it triggers you. But that doesn’t mean the punishment itself is abusive or wrong.
Every relationship is different because people are different and what they can tolerate varies. So, punishments cannot be the same across the board. I know people who love to be spanked, but will not accept it as punishment.
I mean spanking is pretty much the most standard basic punishment you can think of in a D/s relationship… but for some people it’s a limit. Why? Well, in one case I know it’s because she loves spanking and doesn’t ever want it to be tainted with any negative feelings. It’s arousing and she wants it to stay that way.
So, last month I released a new book with an Ace (asexual) main character: Lisa’s Unexpected Valentine’s Day. It’s something you don’t see in romance often, unfortunately, and it’s been on my mind for a while to write an ace character.
And what I discovered was that there are a lot of people out there who don’t really understand what asexuality is. It stirred up a lot of conversation on Facebook and I really enjoyed the discussions that came up because of the book. (Yay!) But I also realized that there are some big misconceptions out there too.
Definitions and misconceptions:
So, for those of you who aren’t familiar, asexual (Ace) means you have little to no interest in having sex with other people. Or you only experience sexual attraction under certain circumstances. But there’s a lot more to it than that, so let’s spell out some facts about being asexual.
Musings of a Chaotic Mind 