If your Doms don’t make you mad sometimes there might be a problem.

I try really hard to be inclusive of everyone and every possible relationship setup when I write these blog posts. So, I don’t make a lot of definitive statements like, “If you do this you are wrong!” Every submissive is unique, every Dominant is unique, so of course each relationship is going to be different. But in my experience if you don’t get mad at your Dominant now and then there is usually a problem because with real submission there needs to be both challenge and growth and neither of those come without frustration. Continue reading “If your Doms don’t make you mad sometimes there might be a problem.”

New book and Anniversaries!

My 6th novel, Surrendering to her General, has been accepted by my usual publisher Blushing Books ! If you’ve never checked them out you should. Most of their books are romantic fiction covering relationships with elements of power-exchange, like mine.

I’m really excited about this book because I feel like I had to stretch in some new directions for it. I’ve always wanted to do a sci-fi novel, and I have another one started, but this one jumped to the head of the list. We’re probably looking at a mid-May release for it and I can’t wait to see what people think of it.

I’m especially pleased because it was two years ago this month that my first book A Haunting Experience was accepted by Blushing (February 17th 2017) so it feels like a great way to celebrate my anniversary as an author. Thank you so much for supporting me by buying my books, reading, and reviewing them. This has been a wonderful journey and more fun than I could have expected!

Structure and No Leniency

The thing about being a submissive is that your needs tend to be fluid. Your Dominant has to be able to follow the changes with you. Rules, if you have them, need to grow with your needs. Sometimes one becomes superfluous, maybe you’ve outgrown the need for it; other times it becomes clear that there is a lack that needs to be corrected. People change constantly so it’s really important that the people involved in the relationship occasionally discuss and consider these rules to make sure that they still fit the person you are now. Continue reading “Structure and No Leniency”