Kessily Lewel

June 30, 2023January 2, 2024

Stuff Your Kindle Event! TODAY Only

So, I feel like I would be remiss if I didn’t let you all know that I’m taking part in one of those ‘thousands of free books’ events. It is TODAY, one day only (Some books might still be free for a day or two, depending on how the author set it up, but one day is all you’re guaranteed.)

June 16, 2023June 12, 2023

Growing Up Kinky: Finally Finding Some Non-Fiction Information on BDSM.

Fiction is pretty much always the gateway to kink when kids are growing up, I think. I mean no kids are out there stumbling across instruction manuals for BDSM. They see the cartoons with everyone getting spanked, the old sitcoms with wives getting punished.

Then you have the more modern shows where both men and woman get spanked, but usually now in sexy situations instead of discipline. Maybe they see some spankings in old kid’s books, or read stories about it happening—and that’s how they find out that there is something weirdly compelling about all of it.

It’s weird being kinky as a kid because you can literally hate being punished—and avoid it at all costs, but then… seeing someone else get punished is just completely enthralling and you don’t know why.

June 2, 2023May 30, 2023

New Book! Her Wicked Rhode Island Dom Is Live!

Hello readers! Surprise!

I know this is sudden. I just got the final cover, blurb, and the pre-order link just a couple of days ago, and since I usually post on Fridays, when the book was releasing, I figured I might as well wait until it was live and announce it.

This year has been moving really slowly, and I feel like it’s been ages since I had something new to share. I pretty much finished this one at the end of April, but traditionally published books tend to move a little slower through production, even in the romance genre. It’s going to be worth the wait though.

Her Wicked Rhode Island Dom is book sixteen in the Stateside Dom series. This series features stand-alone books by different authors and assorted dynamic styles. There is no crossover between books, so you can read just the ones you like without worrying about missing anything.

May 19, 2023May 3, 2023

Ethical Bratting 101

Ethical bratting is one of those phrases I’ve been using for so long, that I’m not sure if I made it up or just heard it somewhere. When I was new to the scene, I was a brat, like many new submissives.

And don’t get me wrong, I can still be bratty with certain people. We all have bratty moments, I think. But I no longer identify as a brat and haven’t for a very long time.

It’s the easiest transition to submitting because in a lot of ways it replicates what we experience in childhood. Someone in authority gives us rules. We break them. We get punished — rinse and repeat.

Topping From The Bottom – Part Two

So last week we discussed topping from the bottom. I described what it was, and why it’s often not such horrible thing. But what we didn’t discuss is how to tell the difference between communication and topping from the bottom.

As I’ve said, sometimes Doms confuse asking for things with topping from the bottom. Those are two very different things. There is nothing wrong with asking for what you want. Communication is the sign of a healthy relationship.

So…