The creations of Kessily Lewel (and Sadie Marks)
There have always been relationships that are built on financial considerations. One example, historically, would be the bride price. The prospective groom (or his family) would pay the bride’s family for his wife. This was considered the norm in many cultures, and is different from a dowry, which was a much more complicated transaction.
There is a stereotype out there, that says women don’t ask for what they want. They dance around, and hint, and never actually just spit out a request. It leaves the men fumbling around trying to figure things out, and failing because they’ve been given no information to work with.
Yeah… It’s not true.
Sure, there are people who do this, but it doesn’t really have anything to do with gender. If I was going to make this about gender, I might say I notice it more with men, because they were always told they weren’t supposed to have needs. Needs aren’t manly. So expressing any is just really hard.
Or worse…some were taught that men don’t ask, they take.
But this isn’t about gender.
It is about submissives though.
Continue reading “JUST ASK!”
A couple months back, I mentioned the concept of Spotters, and at that time I made a note to write an article about it, so I added it to the idea pile. Last month I had an e-mail asking for more information, so I moved it up to the top of the list.
This is your reminder that if you have ideas for things you’d like me to write about, or if I mention something you would like more information on, you can always use the contact button to e-mail me. It helps to know what readers are interested in, and I often plan based on that.
But let’s discuss Spotters.
Continue reading “SPOTTERS—KEEPING YOU SAFE, WHEN YOU CAN’T”
For a Little, the ability to slip into a younger mindset, and bring their inner child out into the world to play can be a gift. It is a way to escape stress, relax, and just have fun. For people who have to be in control too much, it’s a way of forcing themselves to let go.
If you normally struggle to let other people take care of you, being in Little space can suddenly make it easier for you to accept help. Most Littles, by their nature, enjoy being indulged and cared for, at least to a certain extent. That’s really what the Little experience is about. Letting go of control, and allowing someone else to look after you for a while.
This seems like a pretty basic question on the surface, but when you dive deep, you find it’s a lot more complex. And, as with many things in the Scene, the meaning depends on the people involved.
Simply put, a collar is usually defined as a band that you wear around your throat. It can be made from almost any material: lace, leather, metal, velvet. And by itself it doesn’t need to have any sort of meaning.
Continue reading “WHAT DOES BEING COLLARED MEAN?”
Musings of a Chaotic Mind 