Why do I have Dominants?

Hello everyone! Hope your week is going well. Today’s post is going to be interesting because it’s a punishment.

So, when I started this blog I intended to write from the perspective of what I am, a writer, and discuss things in a theoretical sense, and not as someone who lives these things or experiences them. That lasted for about two posts I think, before I realized that’s not really who I am or how I want to run this blog.

What I really am is a submissive, and I’ve been pretty much open about that my whole life, except when it came to my day job where it wouldn’t have been appropriate or gone over well. Once I stopped having a day job I felt I was finally free to express myself openly, without fear of how people would react, and I dropped the last of my pretenses, or so I thought.

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Spanking: Discipline or pleasure, and how to manage both. (Part Two)

Spanking: Discipline or pleasure, and how to manage both. (Part Two)
*If spanking turns you on can it actually be punishment? And how do you do it?  *

Yep, it sure can. There are some deep-level masochists/pain sluts who can literally turn all pain into pleasure, and in their case maybe not (There is an ‘except’ here that I’ll get into in a minute). The rest of us fall on a spectrum. I enjoy a certain amount of pain, and then it stops being fun. The thing about punishments is that you don’t get to say “Okay, I’m done now, thanks!” when you reach that limit.

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Spanking: Discipline or pleasure, and how to manage both. (Part one)

This topic was suggested to me by my bossy people and I struggled a little with how to start it, but I think I have a handle on it now. It’s going to be pretty long since I’m covering a bunch of subjects, so I’ll be breaking it up into two posts.

I’m someone who needs spanking for discipline, but it can also be a turn on and that confuses people. There are a lot of views on this and I’m just going from my own experience, which is pretty wide and varied. but may not match yours. The confusion comes on multiple levels from many directions and I’m going to try to clear up as many as I can.

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The many spankings of Robert Heinlein

So, I’ve been such a good girl this month in participating in the #JuneInstaSpank challenge on Instagram. It’s a platform I’ve never used before. I go there to look at pictures but until this month I had never posted anything. Shocking, I know. But I do love a challenge and I’m very self-competitive so when I decided to join in I figured I’d end up putting a lot of time into it, and I have.

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