Aftercare Part One

I honestly thought I’d done a post on aftercare at some point, but when someone asked a question about it and I searched, I couldn’t find one. I’ve probably rolled it into other posts on several occasions but nothing exclusive. So, this will be a two-part article focused specifically on how to handle the sub/bottom/receiver/Little when they are in need of aftercare.

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Krampus, the Myths and Legends

I said I’d be keeping things light this month, and since I just wrote two books in a Krampus series, I thought it might be fun to go over the history and lore of this mythological figure. It surprised me how few people had heard of Krampus before my books and I thought readers might be interested in learning a bit more about him.

Krampus is known for a couple of things. One is his devilish looks. There is a lot of fun old artwork out there depicting him looking quite scary, which is, of course, a bit different from how I’ve written him in my books.

The other… is punishment.

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Ignore The One True Wayers – Your Kink Doesn’t Need To Follow Anyone Else’s Rules

I apologize in advance because this is a long one.

From the title I bet you can guess what we’re going to discuss today. People who decide that their way to kink is the only way to kink are bad for the community. It’s a form of gatekeeping and it takes away people’s right to decide for themselves.

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BDSM and Self Harm Part Two(TW: Self Harm)

I’m going to start with another warning. I know we went over it yesterday, but today is a new day and a new situation. Please take a moment to make sure you’re in a good place to continue this conversation. Police your own triggers by making sure you can handle reading this before continuing, as there will be info that could potentially trigger people.

There were certain things that needed to go in the first post. I already knew it was going to be on the long side and I had to be careful where I ended it, so this might feel a little disjointed, but I want to revisit a few things.

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BDSM and Self Harm Part One (TW: Self Harm)

This is part one of a pretty heavy topic, but one that I think could be really useful to some people right now. And because of the emotional nature of the theme, breaking it into a lot of sections is difficult so this first piece is very long.

This blog doesn’t usually dive into mental illness, or unhealthy coping mechanisms. That’s not my focus; I’m here about the kinky lifestyle. However, it’s impossible to ignore the cross-over and at times there will be topics that get into that—this is one of them.

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