I’ve thought about writing a little bit about the history of the BDSM community before, but I haven’t had a chance to do much on it so far. Then the other day I had an interesting discussion with someone about the ‘proper’ names for things and it seemed like a good time to dip my toes in the shallow end of a deep subject. Continue reading “BDSM Terms and the History Behind Them”
When Should You Negotiate Before a Scene?
This is an important topic and one that I don’t see discussed enough. Many misunderstandings that happen in a scene come from people looking at things in different ways and not realizing it. What’s normal and obvious for one person, might not be that plain for someone else. When you think you’re on the same page and you aren’t… that’s when things can go wrong.
Continue reading “When Should You Negotiate Before a Scene?”
BDSM–It’s Not All About Sex
It’s not all about sex, but I can see why you might not realize that if you watch or read a lot of power-exchange fiction. Continue reading “BDSM–It’s Not All About Sex”
Submissive Not Slave
The new year seems like a good time for some serious topics and this is a deep one because it’s about slavery. It’s something that I’ve been wanting to write for a few months now but it took a while to get the words together.
We’ve outgrown Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC)
This is going to be one of those informative posts where I ramble about things that people who are new to the scene, or people who are outside the scene but curious, might find useful–but I actually hope some people who have been around the block a couple times might find it interesting too.
I’m going to discuss SSC and RACK, two popular acronyms used by people in the scene. Continue reading “We’ve outgrown Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC)”
Musings of a Chaotic Mind 