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October 9, 2020October 3, 2020

BDSM and Self Harm Part One (TW: Self Harm)

This is part one of a pretty heavy topic, but one that I think could be really useful to some people right now. And because of the emotional nature of the theme, breaking it into a lot of sections is difficult so this first piece is very long.

This blog doesn’t usually dive into mental illness, or unhealthy coping mechanisms. That’s not my focus; I’m here about the kinky lifestyle. However, it’s impossible to ignore the cross-over and at times there will be topics that get into that—this is one of them.

August 7, 2020August 16, 2020

BDSM Terms and the History Behind Them

I’ve thought about writing a little bit about the history of the BDSM community before, but I haven’t had a chance to do much on it so far. Then the other day I had an interesting discussion with someone about the ‘proper’ names for things and it seemed like a good time to dip my toes in the shallow end of a deep subject. Continue reading “BDSM Terms and the History Behind Them”

July 10, 2020July 10, 2020

When Should You Negotiate Before a Scene?

This is an important topic and one that I don’t see discussed enough. Many misunderstandings that happen in a scene come from people looking at things in different ways and not realizing it. What’s normal and obvious for one person, might not be that plain for someone else. When you think you’re on the same page and you aren’t… that’s when things can go wrong.

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April 10, 2020April 10, 2020

BDSM–It’s Not All About Sex

It’s not all about sex, but I can see why you might not realize that if you watch or read a lot of power-exchange fiction. Continue reading “BDSM–It’s Not All About Sex”

January 4, 2020January 15, 2020

Submissive Not Slave

The new year seems like a good time for some serious topics and this is a deep one because it’s about slavery. It’s something that I’ve been wanting to write for a few months now but it took a while to get the words together.

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