Dealing with subdrop

This isn’t a fun post, but I think it’s a useful one. More importantly, it’s one that I needed to write for myself, and I hope other people will find it a helpful read too. It’s timely since I’ve just come back from a wonderful week with my Dominants in Canada. I thought I’d get my thoughts in order before I started to head downwards emotionally, but I didn’t quite make it. So, there is a gap between when I started this and when I finished, but hopefully everything is still fresh enough on my mind.

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Spanking: Discipline or pleasure, and how to manage both. (Part Two)

Spanking: Discipline or pleasure, and how to manage both. (Part Two)
*If spanking turns you on can it actually be punishment? And how do you do it?  *

Yep, it sure can. There are some deep-level masochists/pain sluts who can literally turn all pain into pleasure, and in their case maybe not (There is an ‘except’ here that I’ll get into in a minute). The rest of us fall on a spectrum. I enjoy a certain amount of pain, and then it stops being fun. The thing about punishments is that you don’t get to say “Okay, I’m done now, thanks!” when you reach that limit.

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Spanking: Discipline or pleasure, and how to manage both. (Part one)

This topic was suggested to me by my bossy people and I struggled a little with how to start it, but I think I have a handle on it now. It’s going to be pretty long since I’m covering a bunch of subjects, so I’ll be breaking it up into two posts.

I’m someone who needs spanking for discipline, but it can also be a turn on and that confuses people. There are a lot of views on this and I’m just going from my own experience, which is pretty wide and varied. but may not match yours. The confusion comes on multiple levels from many directions and I’m going to try to clear up as many as I can.

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