The creations of Kessily Lewel (and Sadie Marks)
The phrase, Consensual Non-Consent, is a bit of a misnomer. It implies a sex or kink act where non-consensual things happen, which isn’t the case. Informed consent is always involved with CNC.
However, the activities may look non-consensual even though they aren’t, because consent has already been established at another time.
Continue reading “What Is Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)?”
These days if you want to read about non-fiction kink or learn about BDSM there are a million websites to look at. There are tons of real resources and blogs from people who know what they’re talking about.
And if websites aren’t enough and you want books, every kind of kink can easily be found by searching on Amazon. For those who prefer to hold a book in their hands before they buy it, most chain bookstores, like B&N, have plenty on the shelves you can flip through.
In other words the information is all over the place.
But it didn’t used to be like that. When I was in high school, Amazon didn’t exist yet, and the local bookstores, even the chains, had very little on kink. You might find half a shelf in the sexuality section if you were lucky.
Continue reading “Growing Up Kinky: Fiction That Shaped Me”
So, we’re coming to the end of 2022, and it’s been a very long year. I think we’re all feeling tired and worn out. Things are, mostly, back to normal from the pandemic, but I’m not sure life will ever be exactly the way it was before.
Readjusting to doing things out of the house again, has been stressful for a lot of us, especially since we know Covid is still around.
I’m sure we are all far too aware of how things have changed, how hard everything has been the past couple years, so it’s not something I really want to write about. Instead, I want to talk the fun stuff and my goals for 2023.
There are soooo many differences between real life BDSM clubs and fantasy clubs in books.
I’d like to start off by saying this topic has been on my list for a while and I’ve just recently been inspired to finish it after reading a new club book. Since we’re in the middle of a pandemic right now I’m sure no one is going out to play in clubs much anyway, but eventually things will get back to normal so I figured I might as well post it.
I’ve often thought that most readers have an idea of what a BDSM or kink club is like that is based solely on fiction. Having read, and enjoyed, quite a few BDSM club series now I can tell you that if your image of a club comes directly from those books you are probably going to be disappointed in the real thing.
Continue reading “Reality Strikes Again– Fictional BDSM Clubs Versus the Real thing.”
Musings of a Chaotic Mind 