Blog Post: Long Distance D/s 2.5 –Directed Spanking Story

As promised, a short story to give you a feel for what a directed (self-) punishment spanking would be like.  Obviously this is only one way, of many, that this could be done, but I did think it would be nice to give you a kind of template for you to use if you decided to incorporate this kind of punishment into your relationship.

You don’t really need to read the other posts to follow this since it’s a story, but you may want to look them up if you are interested in real life relationship information rather than just fiction.

Part 1
Part 2

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Structure and No Leniency

The thing about being a submissive is that your needs tend to be fluid. Your Dominant has to be able to follow the changes with you. Rules, if you have them, need to grow with your needs. Sometimes one becomes superfluous, maybe you’ve outgrown the need for it; other times it becomes clear that there is a lack that needs to be corrected. People change constantly so it’s really important that the people involved in the relationship occasionally discuss and consider these rules to make sure that they still fit the person you are now. Continue reading “Structure and No Leniency”

The difference between controlling behavior and domination

People shy away from talking about abuse in the BDSM scene for good reason—it wasn’t too long ago that the mainstream world thought all Dominants were abusive, and all submissives were victims, and that both sides were crazy to boot. I promised myself when I really got into the blogging that I wasn’t going to avoid the unpleasant topics, and I wasn’t going to censor myself to please everyone so we’re going to talk about abuse, how to know if it’s happening, and how to deal with vanilla people who can’t tell the difference. Continue reading “The difference between controlling behavior and domination”