Daily Lists and How They Help With D/s (Especially Long Distance)

So if you’ve been reading my blog for a while you know I have two Doms, L&G and that we’re all three in different countries so the chances to be together in person, especially all three of us, are very rare. That means a good part of our relationship has to be conducted long distance.

This isn’t a new experience for me. I’ve had many Doms from a distance over the years. Some were close enough to visit frequently, while others had to happen only rarely. It can be hard at times but the Internet is a fantastic tool for allowing this to happen.

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Covid Silence and How It’s Affecting Relationships

A more serious topic for us today after the relaxed December month. Covid Silence is a term I made up to describe the way everyone is kind of pulling into themselves right now. Between the depression, the wish to avoid mentions of the pandemic, and just in general not having much to chat about means a lot of people are going quiet.

For me the hardest part of living in a pandemic has been that silence and difficulty in communicating. It’s amazing how much the daily chatter dies down when no one leaves their house, or does anything fun to share.

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Daddy Kink and Ageplay Are Not the Same

How these these things always end up so long… I have no idea. This was not a post that was easily divided into two parts either so it’s just long, but I hope you find it useful.

Since I recently wrote my first Daddy kink book, it’s come to my attention that a lot of people are confused about Daddy Kink and Ageplay. Both are incredibly popular right now in fiction and in the scene, but many seem to think they are the same thing. They aren’t.

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Ignore The One True Wayers – Your Kink Doesn’t Need To Follow Anyone Else’s Rules

I apologize in advance because this is a long one.

From the title I bet you can guess what we’re going to discuss today. People who decide that their way to kink is the only way to kink are bad for the community. It’s a form of gatekeeping and it takes away people’s right to decide for themselves.

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What Are the Signs of a Great Submissive?

What are the signs of a great submissive? There are none. There are things that you consider important in a submissive, just like there are things that submissives consider important in the Doms they look for. But there is no one true way to be a sub, which means there is no handy list of what makes a good submissive, only what makes a submissive good for you! Continue reading “What Are the Signs of a Great Submissive?”