There’s a lot of misunderstandings about punishment. Lots of people are confused about why we do it and what is the purpose of it is.Continue reading “Punishing a Submissive Part One: What’s the Point of Punishing an Adult Anyway?”
For a submissive, a Dom can be everything. Whether or not you’re also in a romantic relationship is irrelevant, a submissive still loves their Dominant with their whole heart. They take the deepest parts of their soul and give it to them as a gift. It’s a bond that can be as deep as any marriage. It should be that deep.
So…What do you do when your Dom isn’t around enough? Continue reading “What Do You Do When Your Dom Isnt Around Enough? Part 1”
I’ve been writing a lot about rules lately, so this article felt like it was long overdue. What I’d like you to do is read the title and put an emphasis on with. Making rules /with/ your submissive. What I see too often, both in fiction and in real life, is that the Dom simply hands down a list of rules that they think are in the best interests of the submissive, without actually discussing it with them.
I try really hard to be inclusive of everyone and every possible relationship setup when I write these blog posts. So, I don’t make a lot of definitive statements like, “If you do this you are wrong!” Every submissive is unique, every Dominant is unique, so of course each relationship is going to be different. But in my experience if you don’t get mad at your Dominant now and then there is usually a problem because with real submission there needs to be both challenge and growth and neither of those come without frustration. Continue reading “If your Doms don’t make you mad sometimes there might be a problem.”
The thing about being a submissive is that your needs tend to be fluid. Your Dominant has to be able to follow the changes with you. Rules, if you have them, need to grow with your needs. Sometimes one becomes superfluous, maybe you’ve outgrown the need for it; other times it becomes clear that there is a lack that needs to be corrected. People change constantly so it’s really important that the people involved in the relationship occasionally discuss and consider these rules to make sure that they still fit the person you are now. Continue reading “Structure and No Leniency”