BDSM and Self Harm Part One (TW: Self Harm)

This is part one of a pretty heavy topic, but one that I think could be really useful to some people right now. And because of the emotional nature of the theme, breaking it into a lot of sections is difficult so this first piece is very long.

This blog doesn’t usually dive into mental illness, or unhealthy coping mechanisms. That’s not my focus; I’m here about the kinky lifestyle. However, it’s impossible to ignore the cross-over and at times there will be topics that get into that—this is one of them.

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When Should You Negotiate Before a Scene?

This is an important topic and one that I don’t see discussed enough. Many misunderstandings that happen in a scene come from people looking at things in different ways and not realizing it. What’s normal and obvious for one person, might not be that plain for someone else. When you think you’re on the same page and you aren’t… that’s when things can go wrong.

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We’ve outgrown Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC)

This is going to be one of those informative posts where I ramble about things that people who are new to the scene, or people who are outside the scene but curious, might find useful–but I actually hope some people who have been around the block a couple times might find it interesting too.

I’m going to discuss SSC and RACK, two popular acronyms used by people in the scene. Continue reading “We’ve outgrown Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC)”