This article has been on my mind for a while now, but I’ve had trouble getting the words right. Usually if I wait long enough things will more-or-less form up in my head and then I can spill them out in one long whoosh.
That didn’t seem to be happening with this one and then I realized it was because I was working with the wrong title.
I started out with: Subs Are Not Children. And that’s true. Even if the sub identifies as a Little or a Brat, they aren’t children. The distinction between a childish headspace and a child is hugely important for many reasons.
But that’s not really what I want to discuss right now, so I gave it a title that more accurately reflects what I was trying to say: Manage your expectations. That is nice and compact, but it’s also a bit vague.
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My last serious blog post discussed relationship maintenance, especially where it applies to D/s partners. The importance of occasionally going through your rules and protocols to discuss what’s working and what isn’t, cannot be underestimated.
Continue reading “What Do I Do If My Needs Aren’t Being Met?”
This is going to be a super quick one. Just kidding. You know it won’t be. It seems like a simple question on the surface, right? “Are brats subs?”
Continue reading “Brats! Are They Subs or What?”
In the first part we did a basic overview of why some subs/bottoms/littles want or need punishment, and basically what the point of it is. I think that covered the common things people tend to talk about. Probably nothing too earth-shattering in that, but we laid the groundwork to discuss some things that are a little deeper.
Continue reading “Punishing a Submissive Part Two: Sometimes it’s Not About Teaching A Lesson”
There’s a lot of misunderstandings about punishment. Lots of people are confused about why we do it and what is the purpose of it is.
Continue reading “Punishing a Submissive Part One: What’s the Point of Punishing an Adult Anyway?”