For a submissive, a Dom can be everything. Whether or not you’re also in a romantic relationship is irrelevant, a submissive still loves their Dominant with their whole heart. They take the deepest parts of their soul and give it to them as a gift. It’s a bond that can be as deep as any marriage. It should be that deep.
So…What do you do when your Dom isn’t around enough? Continue reading “What Do You Do When Your Dom Isnt Around Enough? Part 1”
It’s not all about sex, but I can see why you might not realize that if you watch or read a lot of power-exchange fiction. Continue reading “BDSM–It’s Not All About Sex”
I’ve been writing a lot about rules lately, so this article felt like it was long overdue. What I’d like you to do is read the title and put an emphasis on with. Making rules /with/ your submissive. What I see too often, both in fiction and in real life, is that the Dom simply hands down a list of rules that they think are in the best interests of the submissive, without actually discussing it with them.
Continue reading “Making Rules With Your Submissive”
Letting punishments go can be bad for your D/s relationship, but sometimes you might need to work around issues that pop up. You might want to read part one first : Letting Punishments Go Can be Unhelpful
So what if the Dom is trying to let something slide but the submissive keeps doing it? Or they come right out and say they feel bad about something they’ve done, but the Dom doesn’t want to punish for it? I often hear subs complaining about Doms not being consistent with the punishments. Making threats but not following through.
Continue reading “Dealing With Punishment Issues–Part two of ‘Letting Punishments Go Can Be Unhelpful’”
Not all D/s relationships have the kind of structure where the Dom makes rules and dispenses punishment. But when you do include them in your D/s it’s important to follow through when the submissive breaks the rules. Some Dominants have trouble giving punishments and that’s okay, but if punishment isn’t something you can handle then you probably shouldn’t be making real rules.
Continue reading “Letting Punishments Go Can Be Unhelpful–Part One”