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January 19, 2019

Structure and No Leniency

The thing about being a submissive is that your needs tend to be fluid. Your Dominant has to be able to follow the changes with you. Rules, if you have them, need to grow with your needs. Sometimes one becomes superfluous, maybe you’ve outgrown the need for it; other times it becomes clear that there is a lack that needs to be corrected. People change constantly so it’s really important that the people involved in the relationship occasionally discuss and consider these rules to make sure that they still fit the person you are now. Continue reading “Structure and No Leniency”

December 15, 2018December 15, 2018

Writing a hot sex scene

So, this is an unusual one, and I’m not sure if there’s a lot of interest in this kind of post, so if you like it please let me know! I normally write about my books, interesting kink/sex topics, or about being a submissive but today I thought I’d talk about actual writing, specifically sex scenes, just for fun.

Warning there is going to be all kinds of graphic in this post. Continue reading “Writing a hot sex scene”

November 30, 2018November 30, 2018

The difference between controlling behavior and domination

People shy away from talking about abuse in the BDSM scene for good reason—it wasn’t too long ago that the mainstream world thought all Dominants were abusive, and all submissives were victims, and that both sides were crazy to boot. I promised myself when I really got into the blogging that I wasn’t going to avoid the unpleasant topics, and I wasn’t going to censor myself to please everyone so we’re going to talk about abuse, how to know if it’s happening, and how to deal with vanilla people who can’t tell the difference. Continue reading “The difference between controlling behavior and domination”

November 15, 2018

News and a snippet from the current WIP (Work in progress)

So my first news is that I decided to put together a new logo to use when posting about writer issues, writer problems, etc. I thought it would be more fun to have a little cartoon to go along with it, and people seem to like them–yay! So after making the logo I decided to use it as a background for the text so I could post things as memes, and I’m liking how it looks.

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November 11, 2018July 17, 2023

Dealing with subdrop

This isn’t a fun post, but I think it’s a useful one. More importantly, it’s one that I needed to write for myself, and I hope other people will find it a helpful read too. It’s timely since I’ve just come back from a wonderful week with my Dominants in Canada. I thought I’d get my thoughts in order before I started to head downwards emotionally, but I didn’t quite make it. So, there is a gap between when I started this and when I finished, but hopefully everything is still fresh enough on my mind.

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