Maybe this is a secret. Maybe I haven’t mentioned this before. I honestly can’t say for sure. I don’t remember if it’s ever come up.
I hate the word Domme. It makes me grit my teeth.
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Manage Your Expectations
This article has been on my mind for a while now, but I’ve had trouble getting the words right. Usually if I wait long enough things will more-or-less form up in my head and then I can spill them out in one long whoosh.
That didn’t seem to be happening with this one and then I realized it was because I was working with the wrong title.
I started out with: Subs Are Not Children. And that’s true. Even if the sub identifies as a Little or a Brat, they aren’t children. The distinction between a childish headspace and a child is hugely important for many reasons.
But that’s not really what I want to discuss right now, so I gave it a title that more accurately reflects what I was trying to say: Manage your expectations. That is nice and compact, but it’s also a bit vague.
Continue reading “Manage Your Expectations”What Do I Do If My Needs Aren’t Being Met?
My last serious blog post discussed relationship maintenance, especially where it applies to D/s partners. The importance of occasionally going through your rules and protocols to discuss what’s working and what isn’t, cannot be underestimated.
Continue reading “What Do I Do If My Needs Aren’t Being Met?”So… Isn’t It Time for You to Do Some Relationship Maintenance?
It came on me out of the blue that it was time for this in my own life, so I’m passing it on to you. This serves as a reminder that if you want your relationships to last they should be fluid and able to change as you and your partners do.
That means your rules and relationship expectations need to be discussed too. Depending on how in flux your lives are that can mean having these discussions fairly often, but even if everything is stable and you’re content it’s still a good idea to pull things apart now and then. So….
Continue reading “So… Isn’t It Time for You to Do Some Relationship Maintenance?”Punishing a Submissive Part Two: Sometimes it’s Not About Teaching A Lesson
In the first part we did a basic overview of why some subs/bottoms/littles want or need punishment, and basically what the point of it is. I think that covered the common things people tend to talk about. Probably nothing too earth-shattering in that, but we laid the groundwork to discuss some things that are a little deeper.
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Musings of a Chaotic Mind 