The creations of Kessily Lewel (and Sadie Marks)
This post is mostly going to focus on women with male partners. It might apply to other relationship dynamics, but one question I see asked a lot, mostly by women with male partners, is: “How do I get my husband/boyfriend to be rougher with me? He’s always afraid he’ll hurt me.”
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People are often confused about the various types of submissives in the scene. Some aren’t aware that there is more than one way to be a sub. Others know there are multiple ways, but aren’t really sure what the difference is. And some… well, they like to gatekeep and say that submission only counts if you do it in the way they expect.
But the truth is… there are many different roles that fall under the header of submissive.
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I saw a comment from someone in a group recently about really needing some Little time, but just not having the time or space for it. As I was replying to them, I realized it was probably an issue many people have. So here we are with a whole article about it.
How do you balance that need for some completely relaxed, stress-free, inner child time… with the overwhelming demands of adult life?
And…
When do you stop and take a moment to enjoy that Little headspace, when it seems like you have a never ending list of responsibilities to take care of?
In my experience, if you find yourself really needing Little time and you don’t take it, keep pushing your Little side down because it’s not convenient, eventually your Little will break out—and probably at the worst possible time.
Continue reading “Finding Time To Be Little”
There is an old parable called ‘The Blind Men and the Elephant’. The oldest version of it came from a Buddhist text from 500BCE. It’s a story about a group of blind men who have never come across an elephant before, and who learn what the elephant is like by touching it.
Each blind man feels a different part of the elephant, but only one part, such as the side or the tail. They then describe the elephant based on their limited experience and their descriptions of the elephant are all very different because they only explored a small piece of it.
The phrase, Consensual Non-Consent, is a bit of a misnomer. It implies a sex or kink act where non-consensual things happen, which isn’t the case. Informed consent is always involved with CNC.
However, the activities may look non-consensual even though they aren’t, because consent has already been established at another time.
Continue reading “What Is Consensual Non-Consent (CNC)?”
Musings of a Chaotic Mind 