Asexual – Musings of a Chaotic Mind

March 22, 2024March 23, 2024

What Does It Mean to be Asexual and Kinky?

So, last month I released a new book with an Ace (asexual) main character: Lisa’s Unexpected Valentine’s Day. It’s something you don’t see in romance often, unfortunately, and it’s been on my mind for a while to write an ace character.

And what I discovered was that there are a lot of people out there who don’t really understand what asexuality is. It stirred up a lot of conversation on Facebook and I really enjoyed the discussions that came up because of the book. (Yay!) But I also realized that there are some big misconceptions out there too.

Definitions and misconceptions:

So, for those of you who aren’t familiar, asexual (Ace) means you have little to no interest in having sex with other people. Or you only experience sexual attraction under certain circumstances. But there’s a lot more to it than that, so let’s spell out some facts about being asexual.

Another Kinky Romance Book with an Ace Character is Out!

This one isn’t mine. It’s Pippi’s Little Prank Day, by Allie Belle and it’s live now!

Feast or famine right? First there are hardly any kinky romance books with asexual characters and now, suddenly, there are two new ones! What a coincidence!

Well, there was a little coincidence, but not as much as you’d think. This is kind of a fun story, so I thought you might be interested in some behind-the-scenes info about how it all worked out.

Book Release: Lisa’s Unexpected Valentine’s Day Live!

Live and in #KU

Universal link: https://mybook.to/LisasUnexpectedVDay

Sometimes love is meant to break the mold.

✔️DDlg dynamic with a Middle

✔️Damsel in distress

✔️Taboo/Forbidden

✔️Ace character

✔️Punishment and Funishment scenes

✔️ Poly themes

💯 Steam and Spice!

Lisa dreamed of having a Dom of her own, but even though everyone said BDSM wasn’t all about sex… in her experience, Dominants weren’t very interested in asexual submissives. Despite longing to be on her knees, to be nurtured and disciplined by a stern hand, she’d had to give up on those fantasies—locking them away for good.

But relationship issues are the least of her worries, when her life suddenly falls apart. She ends up at her best friend’s door, in desperate need of help, on Valentine’s Day. Because of the terrible timing, Maya invites Lisa to stay… without telling her husband, Rick, that they have company.

The decision brings serious consequences when Lisa’s yearning for dominance leads her to steal a forbidden glimpse into the steamy bedroom scenes that Rick and Maya enjoy together— and she’s caught in the act of breaking their trust.

The consequences threaten to change the lives of three people who thought their paths were set. But in the end, it might just open a door for her to get exactly what she needs. After all… love isn’t the same for everyone, and sometimes you have to think outside the box to find the right fit.

Note: While Lisa is asexual, this book contains some hot and steamy scenes between Rick and Maya. Their DDlg dynamic is also very much in play throughout the book.

Keep reading for information about the writing of the book, and an excerpt!