Musings of a Chaotic Mind

February 25, 2022February 19, 2022

Older Subs with Younger Doms Part Two

Last week we talked about younger Doms and some of the questions older subs have when it comes to submitting to them. We discussed how there is a perception of what a Dom should be, that seems at odds with a younger person and how it’s mostly inaccurate.

Today we’re going to talk about why older subs feel uncomfortable about submitting to Doms who are younger than them. We’ll also talk about why we rarely see the older Sub/younger Dom dynamic represented in fiction.

February 18, 2022February 19, 2022

Older Subs with Younger Doms Part One

This is a topic you don’t see covered often. You don’t see it on many non-fiction blogs or websites, but you also don’t see it much in fiction either. I’ve been building up to discuss it for a while, so I’m going to take my time and lay it all out for you in two parts.

Let’s start with some questions I’ve received about this subject:

February 11, 2022February 11, 2022

Dirty Daddies is Gone but Good News!

If you didn’t pick up your copy of Dirty Daddies 2021 Anthology then… well, you’re out of luck. It’s gone now. However, I do have some paperback copies to give away over the course of the year so keep your eyes open if you missed your chance.

But we’ve had some great news! Even though it’s gone, it has been nominated for several awards. One is the 2021 Swoon Awards (The Swoonies) and we’re a finalist in the anthology category.

The Swoon Awards (or The Swoonies ) is a reader-based and reader-hosted award celebrating the romance community’s favorite romance novels of the year. The award consists of 15 romance categories across different subgenres and age categories and there are three rounds.

January 28, 2022January 3, 2022

Things Every Kinky Person Should Know When Trying Bondage

So just a forewarning to start with: bondage is not my number one kink. I like it, but for me it’s a side kink that goes with all the other stuff. It’s a way to restrain while spanking or doing other things, more than exciting on its own.

Which isn’t to say I haven’t had my share of bondage adventures. It’s just that if you are looking for extremely detailed how-tos you will probably find better examples on other blogs. People who are realllly into bondage will be happy to walk you through every knot, every style, and every type of bondage there is.

What I want to give you is some brief advice about safety in bondage from my own experience. Especially for people who are just beginning to explore.

January 7, 2022December 27, 2021

How Do I Bring Up the Topic of Kink with My Partner?

Boy, did this use to be a huge issue! Don’t get me wrong, it can still be difficult now, but it’s a lot easier than it used to be.

I can’t tell you the number of people in the lifestyle I knew who simply never got the courage to tell their partner about their need for kink. Some of them denied themselves for most of their lives because of that fear.

I literally know widows and widowers who never got a chance to explore until their spouse of many years passed on. There are a surprising number older newbies in the scene for this exact reason.

Others made the decision to explore outside of their marriage and keep it secret. There were lots of justifications for this and in some cases, you can totally understand why they made that choice.