I’ve thought about writing a little bit about the history of the BDSM community before, but I haven’t had a chance to do much on it so far. Then the other day I had an interesting discussion with someone about the ‘proper’ names for things and it seemed like a good time to dip my toes in the shallow end of a deep subject. Continue reading “BDSM Terms and the History Behind Them”
When Should You Negotiate Before a Scene?
This is an important topic and one that I don’t see discussed enough. Many misunderstandings that happen in a scene come from people looking at things in different ways and not realizing it. What’s normal and obvious for one person, might not be that plain for someone else. When you think you’re on the same page and you aren’t… that’s when things can go wrong.
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Fiction vs Reality
So, most of you probably know that in addition to writing this blog where I get real and serious about the lifestyle, I also write novels and short stories in the BDSM genre. Some of you probably came here after reading my books. Others stumbled on the blog through web searches looking for kink articles. Continue reading “Fiction vs Reality”
Review of the Survive LDR store
We had a pretty intense 3-part series on relationship stuff last month, so I think it’s time for something a little lighter. If you recall I wrote to you in April about the Survive LDR site which focuses on long-distance relationships. Continue reading “Review of the Survive LDR store”
What Do You Do When Your Dom Isn’t Around Enough? Part 3- Littles and Some Final Thoughts
In part one we discussed how life can be difficult at times, and how it can mess with your relationship dynamics. Through no one’s fault, sometimes Doms just can’t be available as much as they are needed. This can be a time or energy issue because, let’s be honest, Domming does take a lot of energy and it can be hard to force. What Do You Do When Your Dom Isn’t Around Enough Part 1
In part two we talked about how to nourish the D/s bond and ways to deal with only having a limited amount of time together. We discussed things that could help get the relationship back on the right track as well. What Do You Do When Your Dom Isn’t Around Enough Part 2 Continue reading “What Do You Do When Your Dom Isn’t Around Enough? Part 3- Littles and Some Final Thoughts”
Musings of a Chaotic Mind 