Relationships – Page 12 – Musings of a Chaotic Mind

April 9, 2021April 5, 2021

Long Distance Daddy (Book rec.)

Way back in 2019 (about thirty years ago by Covid time) I posted an article about the Dirty Daddies anthology of that year. If you missed it you can find it here: Long Distance D/s and the Dirty Daddies Anthology

It had particular interest to me because there was a novella in it about a long distance relationship. Since that’s a special focus of mine I was very excited to see it. There have been very few books out there that focus on long distance relationships. It’s really nice to see some well-written representation. Unfortunately Dirty Daddies is always a limited time collection, which means after a couple of months the story was gone.

But I have some exciting news for you!

January 22, 2021January 6, 2021

Daily Lists and How They Help With D/s (Especially Long Distance)

So if you’ve been reading my blog for a while you know I have two Doms, L&G and that we’re all three in different countries so the chances to be together in person, especially all three of us, are very rare. That means a good part of our relationship has to be conducted long distance.

This isn’t a new experience for me. I’ve had many Doms from a distance over the years. Some were close enough to visit frequently, while others had to happen only rarely. It can be hard at times but the Internet is a fantastic tool for allowing this to happen.

January 8, 2021December 10, 2020

Covid Silence and How It’s Affecting Relationships

A more serious topic for us today after the relaxed December month. Covid Silence is a term I made up to describe the way everyone is kind of pulling into themselves right now. Between the depression, the wish to avoid mentions of the pandemic, and just in general not having much to chat about means a lot of people are going quiet.

For me the hardest part of living in a pandemic has been that silence and difficulty in communicating. It’s amazing how much the daily chatter dies down when no one leaves their house, or does anything fun to share.

November 20, 2020September 12, 2021

Daddy Kink and Ageplay Are Not the Same

How these these things always end up so long… I have no idea. This was not a post that was easily divided into two parts either so it’s just long, but I hope you find it useful.

Since I recently wrote my first Daddy kink book, it’s come to my attention that a lot of people are confused about Daddy Kink and Ageplay. Both are incredibly popular right now in fiction and in the scene, but many seem to think they are the same thing. They aren’t.

October 10, 2020October 3, 2020

BDSM and Self Harm Part Two(TW: Self Harm)

I’m going to start with another warning. I know we went over it yesterday, but today is a new day and a new situation. Please take a moment to make sure you’re in a good place to continue this conversation. Police your own triggers by making sure you can handle reading this before continuing, as there will be info that could potentially trigger people.

There were certain things that needed to go in the first post. I already knew it was going to be on the long side and I had to be careful where I ended it, so this might feel a little disjointed, but I want to revisit a few things.