Relationships – Page 16 – Musings of a Chaotic Mind

August 30, 2019November 18, 2020

Blog Post: Long Distance D/s 2.5 –Directed Spanking Story

As promised, a short story to give you a feel for what a directed (self-) punishment spanking would be like. Obviously this is only one way, of many, that this could be done. I just thought it would be nice to give you a kind of template for you to use if you decided to incorporate this kind of punishment into your relationship.

You don’t really need to read the other posts to follow this since it’s a story, but you may want to look them up if you are interested in real life relationship information rather than just fiction.

Part 1
Part 2

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August 23, 2019August 17, 2019

Blog Post: Long Distance D/s Series: Part 2— Punishments

I’m warning you in advance this is a long post. The topic of punishment via distance is a complicated one and it was hard to pack everything into this, but I really didn’t want to break it up because things get missed that way.

Before you read this one you might want to read Part 1 if you haven’t already. Continue reading “Blog Post: Long Distance D/s Series: Part 2— Punishments”

August 16, 2019August 15, 2019

Blog post: Long Distance D/s series: part 1— How does it work?

I told you I was working hard on these! You’ll never know how stressful it was to pull this series together, so I hope you find some use in it. I will be setting this up to post a new piece in the series every Friday so it will be nice and steady. Continue reading “Blog post: Long Distance D/s series: part 1— How does it work?”

February 7, 2019February 7, 2019

If your Doms don’t make you mad sometimes there might be a problem.

I try really hard to be inclusive of everyone and every possible relationship setup when I write these blog posts. So, I don’t make a lot of definitive statements like, “If you do this you are wrong!” Every submissive is unique, every Dominant is unique, so of course each relationship is going to be different. But in my experience if you don’t get mad at your Dominant now and then there is usually a problem because with real submission there needs to be both challenge and growth and neither of those come without frustration. Continue reading “If your Doms don’t make you mad sometimes there might be a problem.”

January 19, 2019

Structure and No Leniency

The thing about being a submissive is that your needs tend to be fluid. Your Dominant has to be able to follow the changes with you. Rules, if you have them, need to grow with your needs. Sometimes one becomes superfluous, maybe you’ve outgrown the need for it; other times it becomes clear that there is a lack that needs to be corrected. People change constantly so it’s really important that the people involved in the relationship occasionally discuss and consider these rules to make sure that they still fit the person you are now. Continue reading “Structure and No Leniency”