bdsm – Page 11 – Musings of a Chaotic Mind

November 5, 2021October 21, 2021

Can I Have a Dom Outside of a Vanilla Relationship? Part Two

So last week I talked a little about my experience with the lifestyle and how I’ve always had Doms outside of my romantic relationships. I came at the question from the experience of someone who has no reason not to look outside my marriage when I want or need something, because I’m poly and have known it since I was a teenager.

But not everyone is in a relationship where things are more open. Some people go into a marriage or partnership planning to only have one person in their life, but when your needs don’t match that can be a problem.

October 8, 2021September 17, 2021

I Hate the Word Domme

Maybe this is a secret. Maybe I haven’t mentioned this before. I honestly can’t say for sure. I don’t remember if it’s ever come up.

I hate the word Domme. It makes me grit my teeth.

August 13, 2021August 4, 2021

What Do I Do If My Needs Aren’t Being Met?

My last serious blog post discussed relationship maintenance, especially where it applies to D/s partners. The importance of occasionally going through your rules and protocols to discuss what’s working and what isn’t, cannot be underestimated.

July 23, 2021July 21, 2021

BDSM Ideas: An Illustrated Guide

I received an email from someone who runs this website that hosts this illustrated guide and they asked me to take a look at it and maybe share it with my readers. So I did. You can check it out here: BDSM Ideas: An Illustrated Guide or keep going to see my review of it.

It’s hosted by School of Squirt and the main function of the website seems to be teaching people to have better orgasms. It’s adult oriented obviously, but in an educational way. I can’t really say much about whether their techniques work or not, but they also have illustrated sexual positions and other resources you might find interesting or entertaining.

June 25, 2021June 5, 2021

Brats! Are They Subs or What?

This is going to be a super quick one. Just kidding. You know it won’t be. It seems like a simple question on the surface, right? “Are brats subs?”