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March 24, 2023March 19, 2023

My Favorite Sensation Toy– The Wartenberg Wheel

I recently wrote about an implement I hate: the cane. The article was deeper than that and discussed something more important than my preferences, which is that it’s fine to avoid certain toys if they upset you. It doesn’t matter how iconic a part of the scene they are.

But it did inspire me to think about other toys and I thought I would write about one I love today. The Wartenberg wheel, also called a pinwheel. It’s actually a medical device used to test nerve reactions and sensitivity.

Things Every Kinky Person Should Know When Trying Bondage

So just a forewarning to start with: bondage is not my number one kink. I like it, but for me it’s a side kink that goes with all the other stuff. It’s a way to restrain while spanking or doing other things, more than exciting on its own.

Which isn’t to say I haven’t had my share of bondage adventures. It’s just that if you are looking for extremely detailed how-tos you will probably find better examples on other blogs. People who are realllly into bondage will be happy to walk you through every knot, every style, and every type of bondage there is.

What I want to give you is some brief advice about safety in bondage from my own experience. Especially for people who are just beginning to explore.

August 27, 2021August 4, 2021

Figging and Using Ginger in Your Play

I could have sworn I’d done an article on figging already, but I looked, and I couldn’t find it. I think I might possibly have done an abbreviated version in a larger post, rather than doing one on its own. So, I guess it’s time.

Figging is the act of inserting a piece of ginger into an orifice. Most commonly we hear about it being used in anal play. However, you can actually do it in the vagina and in the urethra as well.

September 13, 2019June 10, 2020

Blog Post: Long Distance D/s series Part 4–The Wrap-up

This post is the fourth of a series. If you haven’t already read the others you should start here:
Part 1
Part 2
Part 2.5 (story)
Part 3

After a series of fairly long and intensive posts about managing a D/s relationship from a distance I imagine you’ll be pleased with a short one just to wrap things up. Continue reading “Blog Post: Long Distance D/s series Part 4–The Wrap-up”

December 15, 2018December 15, 2018

Writing a hot sex scene

So, this is an unusual one, and I’m not sure if there’s a lot of interest in this kind of post, so if you like it please let me know! I normally write about my books, interesting kink/sex topics, or about being a submissive but today I thought I’d talk about actual writing, specifically sex scenes, just for fun.

Warning there is going to be all kinds of graphic in this post. Continue reading “Writing a hot sex scene”