Category: Informative/ How-to

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When your D/s relationship is outside of the norm… (part one)

This is going to go a bit long because I think we’re going to need a lead up to discussing the actual main topic of this post, so I’ll be dividing it in half. I think it’s become pretty obvious by now that I have more than one Dominant. I’ve mentioned K and W in several posts—and maybe G and L once if I remember correctly. I’ve been thinking about writing about this for a while, because it’s a question people ask me a lot. It’s a complicated topic because there are so many types of D/s relationships, so it kept getting pushed lower on the list while I tried to find the right way to approach it.

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The high maintenance submissive

I feel like I’m really high maintenance. My bossy people tell me that I’m not, that my needs are reasonable, but it never feels like that to me. Anytime I get in trouble or ask for something, I feel like I’m too much work and I cringe and try to withdraw. I will put off asking for something I know is a need, for months sometimes, rather than lay it out to be discussed because of this fear I have.
Somewhere along the path I got this idea that being submissive meant being useful without having any needs. I mean, I didn’t just stumble over the idea on the ground and carry it home to keep forever because it sparkled.

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Spanking in retro advertising

(Edit 5-21-2019 this popped on my feed and I was confused to see all the pictures were gone from it. Not sure where they went, but  I’m putting them back in.)
I’ve been working on a number of longer blog posts that involve serious topics and stories so I’ve been a bit quiet, but here’s a fun post with lots of vintage spanking pictures to amuse you this weekend. So happy spanking …er Saturday. I meant happy Saturday!

Spanking used to be big in advertising. You saw it everywhere, for any product you could imagine and most of it really didn’t bother to make much connection to the item really. It was as if they knew spanking would draw the attention of the consumer. Hmm.

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Spanking: Discipline or pleasure, and how to manage both. (Part Two)

Spanking: Discipline or pleasure, and how to manage both. (Part Two)
*If spanking turns you on can it actually be punishment? And how do you do it?  *

Yep, it sure can. There are some deep-level masochists/pain sluts who can literally turn all pain into pleasure, and in their case maybe not (There is an ‘except’ here that I’ll get into in a minute). The rest of us fall on a spectrum. I enjoy a certain amount of pain, and then it stops being fun. The thing about punishments is that you don’t get to say “Okay, I’m done now, thanks!” when you reach that limit.

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